How to Ask Someone Out on a Date

No more hesitations, this is the moment you have been dreaming of and only you
could push it to reality. But, how could you have that dream date? Of course,
you have to start from the top. And, that is to ask the person you are
interested out on a date. Well, how could you invite a person out? Do you need
to be aggressive? Do you need to play safe? Tips to ask someone out would
surely be a great help for you.

The following are simple but very essential tips you could lean on in times
that you seem to find it hard asking a person for a date. For men, these tips
are really great help for you invite that person in your mind.

Know the right reason or reasons for asking a person out. When you know your
purpose, it would surely have the idea of how to express it in a medium that
you are most comfortable with.
What if the person says no? Save that part of you and prepare to whatever the
answer of the other person is. Do not take the "no" so heavily. Learn the
beauty of grace in such times.

In order to say well the words you want to express, you may try to do some
practicing in order for you to get conditioned of how to say such lines you
needed to tell the person you want to be with.
Be sure that you have the most important details you have for the date in mind.
The person might say "yes" and you just do not know where to go, that would be a
real "turn off". As much as possible, be ready with ideas.

See to it that you know how to answer whenever the person asks you why you are
asking her out. You do not have to be a very huge flatterer but you have to
make sure that you make the person feel good. This way of showing how much
thoughtful you are.

Never pressure a person to go out with you. This is not healthy and it would
even branch out to negative outcomes. Remember not to pressure a person to tell
you why it is a "no".

Do not stand people up. This means that when you ask a person out, you mean it
and you do not leave her just expecting for nothing at all.

If the person says no, do not be bitter about it. You just have to move on and
never treat the person unwell.

Having some beer just to boost your confidence is a no. It may just push you to
worse situations. You have to be naturally confident.

The more, the merrier but not for a first date. When you are out to ask a
person for a date, do not do it when she is with a circle of friends.

These are really useful tips and you have to take note of them, they would
surely help you out in maximizing the time you spend with that special person.

Three Keys to the most unforgettable date

Dating is such a fun experience for whatever age it is, there is that different
feeling of fulfillment and sheer joy as you meet a person you seem to have
interest with. This is a means of finding your future life partner. It could
also be a way of getting to know you better for through dating, the side of
yourself that you are less familiar with is being unraveled.

When one is out on a date, what must he do in order to make the date worth a
memory to cherish? Are there strict guidelines to follow? There are actually
none, but there could be helpful tips in order for you to make the most out of
your date. These tips are really important so that you would be able to act
well and enjoy the rest of the time you have with that special person.

Observe punctuality.

Time matters in almost any meeting or activity, it matters most in a date
especially if it is the first date. Clichˇ as it may seem but first impressions
last and you have to take good care of your date's impression of you. It may
mean something negative if you fail to arrive on time. You may have all the
excuses, but you have to show the best efforts in order not to be late.

Remind yourself that you are just excited and not nervous

That strange pump of your heart is just going to distract you from doing well
and enjoying your time. Well, it is but normal to feel that way but do not
allow it to swallow you and stop you from doing the things you wanted to do. If
you cannot stand the feeling, see to it that you divert that emotion to
something that is more positive. Instead of feeling nervous, you have to remind
yourself that you are just excited. This could really help you ease the burden
of being worried or pressured. Being nervous does not help out, drop it off.

Honesty is still the best policy

You do not have to impress your date by telling tall tales. Sincerity and
honesty would always lead you to that acceptance from others. With your honest
way of opening yourself to that person you choose to go out with, you would
surely reap a warm and honest treatment as well. You could appear impressive
without being dishonest. When you are true to what you say and feel, it exudes.

These are just three of the most helpful tips that could make heaven out of
your date. Remember, it is the first step to find that lifetime partner you
have been waiting for. For more tips, you could find them online. But for the
best three tips, stick with our advice.

In Preparation for the Big Date...

After the invitation to have a date with you, yes you could rejoice a bit but
this must not take you for so long, you need to prepare for the day, the real
day that you have been wishing for to arrive. Your preparation matters most.
When you do not know what exactly to do, let us lend you our guides.
These are the tips that would surely let you walk the right path for the date
you have pictured out:

* Set an early date for that date.
When you set such a date weeks after, it could just make your patience brittle
and it would just pile up stress unto you. At first, you may feel that
excitement inside you but as the days grow longer, you may get more and more
impatient.

* Choose a less formal venue
For the first date, it would not be too comfortable if you choose a place where
you would feel stuffy. Better have in mind a venue that is less formal but more
fun. The too much formality thing may just stop you from getting to know each
other well.

* Lunch time for the first time.
To all those who are having a "get to know each other date", it is advisable to
have an early date so that rushing plans to make the time special may not
happen. There could still be that romantic touch though the sun is out. Evening
dates may come after the first date.

* Think more of the person not the place.
Pressures about the venue, the food to order and the clothes you would wear.
These are just secondary and they do not have to post so much pressure on you.
If you allow this to happen, you would surely get carried away with the
pressures and forget the real purpose of the date.

* Informal but not scruffy
As mentioned above, you have to choose a venue that is less formal but it does
not mean that it has to be scruffy and you do not have to look as one scruffy
thing as well. Look presentable though not that very formal.

* Your wealth is not the topic
There are a lot of fun and light things to talk about, do not brag about what
you or your parents have. This would not be so nice for a topic that may just
spoil the rest of the time. Humility would surely be a ticket to more dates.

These are just some of the many tips you need to have in your heart so that you
would also have those good memories to be brought about by the great date you
have. Of course, you have your own way of making this day special too.

Meeting Safely

When you are able to hold different conversations with someone online, you may
both decide that meeting in real life would be good. A lot of date options are
available to help break the ice. However it is important to remember that you
must put your safety first. Both people but especially females should be
exceptionally careful when they are meeting strangers. No matter how long you
have spoken online, you have to remember that it is still someone that you do
not know well enough to trust in certain situations. Use common sense when you
are meeting someone in person for the first time ever.

First, you should suggest that the date take place in a very public area.
Restaurants are a great place to start and give you a chance to talk to more
than a movie date will. You can also suggest that you go to other public places
as long as they are not too secluded. Concerts work well for example but walks
in the park are not recommended since there are often wooded areas in which
your date and you will be alone.

You should also suggest a date that will occur during the daytime rather than
at night. You will be able to see one another much better and it is less
dangerous and less likely that a predator could victimize you in the daytime
since there are other people around. In either case, always find a good common
meeting ground for your date. It is dangerous to get into a car with someone
that you have not met. Remember that it is easy to lie online. It is easy to
continue to lie in person as well. You have to get to know the person as well
as his or her friends, family and co-workers so that you can learn to have
trust in each other.

You should also try a group date. Invite one or two of your friends and have
your date do the same. You can then go to a number of places such as an
amusement park or a shopping mall. Your friends will then carefully monitor the
situation so that you are sure to be safe. There is always safety in numbers. If
you are not taking your friends, you should tell someone where you are going and
when you should be back. Always carry a cell phone to be sure.

When you are feeling more comfortable with a person you can move on to more
secluded dates. However remember to keep your guard up at all times until you
know the person in real life as well as online. Many people will become victims
of rape, kidnap, and even murder all the time and a number of situat8ions stem
from predators meeting their victims online. Use good common sense when you are
meeting someone for the first time so that you are not another statistic to read
about.

Get them excited on the First Date

When you have been talking to someone online for a time you both may decide to
take the next step with a real life date. Online dating can be very beneficial
but without a good connection in real life, you cannot move onto something more
with long lasting potential. Many people are concerned about moving from online
dating to dating in real life. It can be very dangerous. Online daters also
need to worry about the other person not being honest about them. The best
thing that you can do is to simply give it a shot. In the dating world, you
will experience many failures but it is possible to have a good and true
relationship if you try hard. The first date with an online friend can be nerve
racking so you have to be sure to get the other person excited about meeting you.

First it is a good idea to plan a first date that will take place in a public
place. It is easy to lie online and you do not want to find yourself to be a
victim of an online predator. To be safe, you need to suggest meeting at the
place of the date instead of getting into a vehicle with someone you do not
know. Plan a date for the daytime and it is usually a good idea to have very
little alcohol involved. If you are still not sure about meeting for security
reasons, you should suggest a group date where each of you brings a few
different friends.

There are a number of good date ideas that you can use for your first date. You
should always have a meal at a good restaurant or go to the movies. However when
you are eating or watching a film it is difficult to get to now another person.
You can suggest a date based on common interests that attracted you to the
other person in the first place. For example if you both enjoy sports, you can
go to a baseball game or playing golf. If you like the outdoor adventures you
can plan a first date at a rock-climbing place. For more quiet dates, you can
meet at a coffee house or listen to a soft music concert.

The most important thing to remember about a date is to make sure that each
person is comfortable. If you are both having a bad time and it is obvious, it
is not inappropriate to suggest leaving early. However if you both are having a
great time, you may want to extend the date to another activity after the first
date has ended. Leave the first date open because not every person will have a
connection with you. You need to be prepared for both success and failure.

What it takes for a date of a lifetime

Firsts, these are very memorable events you could not deny. They may come in
very varied ways but they share that common effect which is something that
stays within the person. First date, what do you think about it? When the time
comes that you are about to experience it or even not just the first but any
romantic date for that matter, you have to carry with you tips that could make
that one ordinary night or time that would let you reminisce it even years
after.

* Relax as the date starts; get a drink for both of you if you see the need of
doing so. But of course it has to go with a very nice conversation for this is
what really matters. A fine start would surely carry the positive vibes all
throughout the moment.

* Be attentive, and this does not involve the ears, you need to observe those
unspoken words and signs from the other person. Be sensitive, it really matters
a lot.

* Do not think about the event in a very serious demeanor. It may just put you
under so much pressure. Think of the fact that you are here to get to know each
other, have the best time and make the most out of the special event of your
lives.

* Avoid dominating the conversation especially for men. Make it sure that your
voice volume is in moderation and you talk with the person in a sincere manner.
When you do this, you would be listened to not only on that very time but in
more conversations to come. You have to remember that generally people love it
when others listen to them.

* No discussions about ex-partners and of course about sex. This goes out both
ways, no matter how the other person tempts you, be reminded that when out on a
date, and you are in a conversation about such matters, less is more.

* Give the singular focus to your date. Do not be too distracted with other
people around you, no matter how attractive the woman in at the next table is.
Any person likes that attention from the opposite sex. Keep focused.

* Be witty. This is the most attractive point you could flaunt to your date.
Nothing beats having a really fun but wholesome conversation. You have to think
of the fact that the date you have this time around would be your ticket to the
next date or dates. So, do well, let go of those light and gay thoughts.

These reminders would let you try to check and recheck if you are doing the
right thing and you are indeed doing what is right and what is impressive for
your date and for the event as a whole. The following are tips that would let
you get the best scores during the very date.

And, the best reminder you could give yourself is "I am confident, I am going
to have fun and I am going to meet the one."

Background Checks

The big controversy now in online dating is the background check dilemma. Many
of the states are beginning to suggest legislation that would require online
dating websites to perform background checks on its members or state if they do
not. This is creating quite a stir in the online dating world and with members
both for and against the online date background checking rules.

The complete controversy began when the online dating scene was still fresh.
This happened with a website that signed an exclusive contract with the
Internet's largest background checking service so that members could be sure
that they were not conversing with the criminals. This at first may seem like a
good idea since it will protect online daters from sharing personal information
with people that have been known for sexual offenders or have committed fraud
or other types of criminal acts. However this website than began pushing
legislation that would require online dating websites to perform background
checks.

This website has an exclusive contract and they would then force other websites
to use more expensive background checking tools, and so the subscription fees
would be more expensive. This would be controversial and also created a lot of
free advertising for the initial background checking website. To say the least,
it was a way to rise above the competition. This however, did not come to light
until many politicians had already jumped on with the background checking idea.

Checking a person's background can be a good thing. It can prevent online scams
from reoccurring and help people feel safe about using online dating websites.
However it is also a type of invasion of privacy and many people will avoid
online dating websites because they do not want a background check and people
do change.

This is a situation that will be sure to be in the news for many years to come.
There are already a few states that passed a law that will require background
checks. Users and online dating websites do have mixed feeling about this and
before you say your opinion you should be sure to understand both sides of the
argument. Making background checks mandatory could create a better online
dating service for everyone. However it could also mean that the free services
would no longer be available and subscription services would be more expensive
than they are now. To learn more about the online dating website background
checks that are out there in your state, you need to contact your local
legislator's office and ask about multiple questions. You should voice your
opinion and you can create change.

Who Does the Dating Online?

Online dating has begun as a fad and now is a staple in the dating world. There
are daters that took this great resource and used it to their full potential.
Now the new sites are appearing every day to focus on matching people with
those that could fall in love forever. The multi million dollar campaigns are
now use to promote the dating websites and there are billions of accounts that
have been started with which some are not longer in service because of the
success rate of online dating. Who does date online anyway? The answer to that
question may surprise you.

Everyone may be dating online. From college students to seniors, online dating
has gone full force. If you are considering online dating, it is nothing to be
embarrassed about. Even thought there are still some that are not interested in
dating online, it is just like going on a blind date. You will probably have a
better time than most of your friends.

Young adults can date online all the time. This generation grew up having
access to the Internet and this is why online dating is not an out of the
ordinary ordeal. Online are where you can find people who go to the same place
that you doing. You may have the same education interests among others. Young
adults can use online dating resources to find other things like networking
connections. It is easy to get a good conversation going on an online dating
website with someone that goes to a graduate school that you may be considering
and this may be the connection that gives you the insight about the admissions
process. This is going to be the same in the career world as well.

There are older adults that are going to use online dating websites. With
working and sometimes children, there is not much time for dating the
traditional way. Everyone is going to be short on time and this is especially
true for multiple dates with different people to find the right one for you.
You can check out your email at any time of the day and this can be the best
solution to the problem.

There are people that come from all over and have different backgrounds like
race, ethnicity, religion, and sexual preference for online dating. There are
corporate executive that date online and also anyone of any job. There are
Christians, Hindus, and even people that are Atheists that will date online.
There are also single mothers that date online and even fathers too. With the
online experience, you can search for people that best fit your relationship
needs. This is where you can find the people who enjoy the same music as you
like eating the same foods and into the same religion too. Online dating is
something that you may want to consider because more and more people have used
this great method and have had a lot of success in finding the perfect
relationship.

Free vs Paid Online Dating Services

Why would you pay to use the online dating website if you can get it somewhere
else for free? There is a simple answer to this and it is that you do not
receive the same services for free and it is not likely that you will. Just as
you need to commit yourself to a relationship before you get the "free milk,"
you also need to commit yourself to paying for a service in order to get every
possible benefit that online dating has to offer. Before you pay anything, you
need to be sure that the website is what you really want in online dating.

The free online services have many advantages and the most important is that
they require no out of pocket expenses. However because they are free and
anyone can use the services, children may also be exposed. When you have to pay
for online dating services it cuts out everyone that is not serious bout finding
someone to have a relationship with online. It is also a way to make sure that
you are speaking to someone that is at least 18 years old. You need to have a
credit card to be able to pay for the online service. However there will still
be ways that kids can get around this, but why put out an effort if they have
free options to choose from?

The online dating services that charge you a subscription fee can also be a
scam. However it is important to know what you are paying for and you need to
read the terms and conditions very carefully so that your credit card is not
charged very high fees. The Better Business Bureau can help to alert you to
websites that may be a scam and steal credit card numbers. You have to be sure
that you are paying for a service that is well known and safe.

You should also be aware of how to cancel services. These online dating
websites will usually renew subscriptions on a certain day of the month, and it
can be difficult to find on their website how to cancel your subscription. You
have to be sure that you understand this before you sign up for it.

Online dating websites are a good benefit no matter if you pay for them or not.
It is certain that you should use the kind of site that fits your best personal
needs. The more serious daters should have a better chance at finding what they
want on a site that that has fesses due. The mild is not even usually free for
anyone.

Know the Facts of Online Dating

Online dating is getting very popular and if you would like to join this world,
there are a few things that you should keep in mind. As with the other aspects
of life, you will have more success if you follow the rules of the game and
treat other people with respect. Some people may not realize these rules but in
the end it will mean the difference between you getting the date and continuing
to be single.

If you find an attractive picture online, it is ok to tell the person that you
think they are nice looking. However looks are not everything. If that is all
that you have to say online, then it is going to be better not to say anything
at all. Read the person's profile so that you can say something more than just
a comment about their looks.

You can read the profit in all situations. Always look at a person's "My
perfect date" section to see what he or she is going to be interested in. most
people are looking for others within a certain age range and distance from
home. They might also have preferences about children, smoking, religion,
looks, race, and sexual preferences. If you are 33 and someone online is
looking for a date between 20 and 28, he or she is not looking for you so you
need to pass them by.

Do not send an initial email if you did not read the profile. Ask general
questions like "How are you?" and " What can you tell me about yourself?" can
be annoying. Be more specific and ask the other person questions that can be
answered in an email back to you and your questions will show her your personal
interests.

The most important thing is if another person is not interested, move past
them. Sometimes people will not answer your messages on purpose. Online is the
acceptable way of showing that you have no interest. Do not repeatedly send
messages that ask a person if they got your previous message. They got them and
they are simply not interested. If someone writes you back and indicated that
there is no chemistry for him or her, let the issue go. There are millions of
other profiles for you to pursue and someone is going to reply. Writing back to
that person and telling them that they are close-minded, mean, or something
unpleasant is not going to help and it is against the websites rules. Use your
common sense and do not do or say anything that you would never do or say in
real life. Online dating can be more fun for everyone if you follow the
etiquette rules.

Online Dating: Meeting for the First Time

It is fun to date online- you get to imagine what the person you are talking to
is like. There may be web cameras and headsets that would lead you to knowing
the other person closer but of course, meeting in person is far different from
online dating.

Just like the typical setting in our mind, it is really stressful to know that
one day, you are going to meet and go out on a date with the person you used to
chat with only. How would you be impressive? What would you do so that it will
not be your first and last date? Confidence says it all. When that day comes,
all you need to have is the reliance in your self and the thought that things
will be dealt with naturally. Pretensions are never helpful.

Do not put much pressure on your self and on your date. Treat it as a night of
fun no matter what your purpose is- whether you are looking for a night of
excitement or hoping to meet your partner for good, you just have to deal with
the date with enthusiasm and not many expectations from your date. You just
have to enjoy the company of the person with you. It is only the first- so,
whatever happens next depends on both of you.

Confidence could be derived from mind conditioning. When you think that you are
a person of confidence, it is surely to exude. Could you imagine these people
who arrive in a party with all people turning their head just to have a look at
that man or woman? You do not have to be very beautiful or be very sexy just to
achieve confidence. When you are confident, everything beautiful and sexy
follows.

Being insecure is never good. When you feel this way, try to divert your
attention. Ask your date questions about her. With that, you can somehow evade
the situation where you have to answer questions.

To make a more exciting date and keep your self away from the questions you are
not comfortable with, it would be wonderful if you find a similar interest
between the two of you and go out. Trying the things or activities together
would be very interesting. You could talk about your past experiences about
those happenings.

The top most point to remember is that you are a special person who deserves to
be happy. You must never be insecure because we are created with individual
strengths, we must flaunt them and be gutsy. With that, we could meet people
with self-esteem.

Who knows? With this confidence, you will finally meet the lifetime partner you
have been waiting for.

Risks of Online Dating

Dating seems to be a very exciting term. It would mean a new phase of a
person's life a head. Whatever the purpose of dating is, one must always be
responsible and by all means be cautious about being into this kind of
activity. Since you are getting involved with unknown individuals, you must
equip your self with the necessary protection or security whatever risks there
are. Yes, there are risks...

Online dating is of course, safe from outside risks since it happens with a
distance between the people involved. However, there is a consequence with the
majority of those involved to meet the online partner they have. This is when
the risks start.

According to studies in the US, Dating violence is rampant among adolescent
girls, especially those reporting having had the experience of coitus or sexual
intercourse.

Adolescent girls who were hurt by a date on purpose in the past year are more
likely to experience sexual health risks, such as having the possibility to
acquire human immunodeficiency virus infection and other sexually transmitted
infections, unwanted pregnancy may also happen out of the blue. Sad to say,
unwanted pregnancies resort to abortion in some cases.

Women are physically weak. There are a lot of possibilities that they are being
taken advantaged of by their dates. The objective of online dating is noble, but
there are these people who are using it as a venue for their worldly wants. The
local governments are now integrating this issue in their health programs for
women as well as the local agency in responsibility for crime-related aspects
must do their share.

As for the adult women who are into dating, most of them are out due to
long-term relationship heartbreak and so they are there to meet anyone
possible. This reason pushes them to the risks of meeting the wrong man but
still believing that he is right. With that, they are prone to possible sexual
abuses or other forms of abuse.

The most common risk in online dating is both financial and emotional in
nature. Financial risk comes in the form of scam. You must be cautious and try
to read between the lines if the person is just playing around. The emotional
risks are results of having like a married date and so forth.

Dating, companionship and courtship are really good for us but some comes in
disguise- they are hidden black agenda, so be careful.

Romantic Songs for the date of your life

Songs tell a lot. They come in different genre. What have you come across a
genre which is endless and immortal? Is it about friendship or hatred? Of
course, almost all have the idea that LOVE is the most discussed, written and
sung by different people- different voices. When dating out, what makes the
date you have worth-cherishing?

Music has something to do with it. And music could eventually shape the mood of
your date. Dating is such a great way of sifting your future lifetime partner.
When you are out for a date, see to it that the music is just enticing and that
it creates a mood for romance.

Man has composed almost all forms of songs but he writes love songs
beautifully. Since the day the first love song was created, millions are indeed
heart-melting. Songs of finding a new love, losing love, songs of inspiration,
songs of moving on...songs about romance, the first times and the spurt of
emotions.

With all due respect to all artists and fanatics, these are some of Romance
songs which mean the tangle shared by two people in love during the most
romantic date:

Truly, Madly, Deeply (Savage Garden) - this duo's song speaks about an in-depth
affection and promise to the person being loved.

"I'd be your dream
I'd be your wish...
I'd be your fantasy...
I'd be your hope...be your love...
Be everything that you need..."

This I Promise You (N'Sync) - this group made the airwaves filled with love.
This song is really a pledge of a lifetime commitment. It is often used as
wedding song.

"And I will take you in my arms
And hold you right where you belong
Until the day my life is through
This I promise you..."

Iris (Goo Goo Dolls) - the OST of City of Angels, it gained popularity not
because of the movie alone but because the song pinches the heart.

"And I don't want the world to see me
'Cause I don't think that they'd understand...
When everything's made to be broken-
I just want you to know who I am."

Dreaming' of you (Selina) - the singer died but the song stays immortal. It is
a light song but with a strong impact to one's heart.

"I'm dreaming of you tonight
'Til tomorrow
And for all of my life
And there's nowhere in the world
I'd rather be..."

Songs will always be a part of courtship and it all starts with dating. If not,
just a pat of an ignored expression of love. Music is the greatest invention
man. Generations will continue to keep it rich. It will remind them of love and
romance when they are here and grow up.

Some tips to carry when Online Dating

Man will never be an island.

Yes, as long as we breathe, we live as social creatures. We have this innate
longing for companion- for someone to talk to, to listen, to comfort. Even the
person who people think to be cold has another individual by his or her side.
When one feels alone, it is like all the ghosts of life haunt him or her. All
the emptiness tend to grow when one has nobody to call his or hers.

Many resort to Online Dating. The web offers numerous websites where you could
meet, make friends, and, have relationship with persons who are registered in
these websites. You just do not know what story of friendship or love awaits
you. When you are single, with that it means you may be someone really single,
divorced, widow, widower- online dating is there. Just like any kind of dating,
one needs to equip his or her self with the different tips needed to make the
most out of it.

There are these traditional dating strategies that work out and will always
work out:

For women, it is not commendable to so assertive and goes after the men they
want or like. Waiting for that man and being discreet is a better way. As to
men, playing as if the "timid" one who is just too shy when it comes to meeting
and interacting with the opposite sex is not good at all. Let go of the
confidence and look for that girl you want.

Talking about sexual topics when you do not know your date yet that well is not
good at all. Verbal foreplay will just let the two of you focus on this aspect,
get carried away and forget about the more important sides of the newly-found
bond. This must be avoided another thing is not to have a sexual relationship
before being committed. This would also be the one that will destroy the one
which was established.

Stay true and be yourself as you are on the process of online dating. This will
enable both of you to know each other really well and know if you are compatible
with each other. The more you pretend, the more the relationship will grow weak
in the future.

If you are afraid of getting hurt again, never test your partner if he or she
has the capacity to do it to you too. This is very unhealthy for the
relationship. Moreover, do not expect a lot and be disappointed easily. Every
person is unique so do not let the other person be who you want her or him to
be.

The best tip is this: to enjoy every moment and to get to know and eventually
grow in love without the pressure of making everything the way you only want it
to be.

The Bad Side to Online Dating and Scams

With the online dating growing more in success, both for investors and for
uses, online dating scams are popping up left and right. You need to prepare
for the online dating world by always using common sense and by reading up on
the se online predators from time to time. Protect your time and money by
always keeping up to date about the online scams. You should also keep your
heart safe too.

First people that are pretending to be interesting in your dating profile can
scam you online. You should be aware of anyone that wants to meet immediately
because it should take a few weeks of online chat and phone calls before
meeting another person is even thought about. When you do meet someone, do not
leave your personal belongings alone with him or her at any time. This is an
easy way for them to steal your credit card or other personal information and
you may not notice these things are missing for a few days. Also be aware of
people who send you links. Do not click on a link without first knowing what it
is and never download any programs on your computer that others users are
sending you or have in their profiles. These are often some type of spy ware
programs that can steal information from your computer like your passwords and
credit card numbers.

The second type of online scam is done not by the online dater, but by the
online dating service. The problem here is often the same. An online dating
service that is not well known has only recently been established and may steal
your credit card number of other personal information for their use. These
companies because they are online can disappear easily without a trace and it
may be a long time before your money is found and it is at all. Always read the
terms and conditions before you sign up to be sure that there is no clause that
give them permission to sell your email address or use your personal
information in any way.

Last, you need to be concerned if an online dater should ask you to cash money
orders, online users have been scammed into cashing these checks and wiring the
money to a person who claims to be in another country unable to cash checks. The
people will spend a lot of time devoted to gain another's trust before they ask
them to cash any checks. The checks are usually "washed" which means that they
were purchased for a small amount of money and then altered. These people will
eventually get caught and it is impossible to prove that another person made
the cash checks and you will be responsible for owing the bank.

The online scams can put a real strain for online dating but if you are smart,
you should not have any problems. You need to protect yourself by not giving
out too much personal information and by staying out of financial matters.

Your Profile Picture

When you are first joining an online dating community, the most important thing
that you can do is build up a good profile. Your profile is going to be the very
first thing that people read to get an impression of you but also with most
people, guys and girls the same will learn from an appearance. It is important
that you create a good profile but your page will get many more views if you
upload a picture or two. Having a profile picture can make the best difference
when looking for love or friendship online.

Why do some of the users have a profile picture? People are very conscious
about what they look like. Some do believe that a member of the opposite sex
will not give others a chance if they are good looking. Beauty is only in the
eye of the beholder. If you truly are embarrassed to place a photo of yourself
online, you should first try and learn to enjoy your own appearance before
seeking another for a relationship. There are other people that are scared that
posting a picture is an invitation for online predators to scam them. It is true
that if you post provocative pictures this can happen. However a regular picture
will not usually attract any criminal activity by others. If it would, you
should practice safety online to avoid getting involved in giving away too much
information about yourself. Posting pictures is a relatively safe idea if you
are going to use common sense.

To get the most productive results, you need to post more than one picture. Fir
you should find a good head shot. This can be flirty, funny, or happy. One in
which you are looking good and happy with a great smile is going to be the best
bet. For the second picture, use a shot that shows at least one of the rests of
your body. If you do not include this, some people may think that you are
trying to hide something from them. It is better to be proud of who you are and
your weight than to hide it and have someone find out later on down the road.
Remember that everyone is looking for something different in another person's
appearance.

You need to include some action shots. An example would be if you like animals
you should post a picture of you and your dog. If you like sports, you can use
a picture in your baseball uniform or at the game may be good. If you travel a
lot, you can upload a great picture of you at a landmark in the background.
These are all interesting shots that will give the other online a good idea of
your personality. Getting the interest of another person is the main goal of
online dating and a picture can help you get the results that you are looking
for.

Your Profile

There are many online sites that will include counters so that you may see how
many viewers look into your page every day. Some of the sites will even make
the information public, that is when they will post your information for
everyone to see. This will go without saying that the longer that you are a
member the higher your number of views will be. However you may have noticed
that others who may seem to be similar to you countless views every day while
you simple get one or two of them. If you are serious about online dating and
it is important to understand why you are not getting a large number of the
views, you need to correct the problems. The more that view your profile, the
more likely you will be to meet someone with the relationship that you want.

First of all, you will need to grab a person's attention. Be certain that you
have a location picked out so that when people use the search option based on
location your name will appear on their list. Find out what the information is
listed when you perform a search. Many dating websites will give the users the
option to create a "headline" for their profiles and this as well as age and
location is given to the searcher and they can choose to click on your name and
continue on to your profile.

You should be sure that you have a picture uploaded. Many of the people will
only consider contacting people who post pictures. If you do not have a picture
on your profile, you will arouse suspicions of the other online daters.
Otherwise it will seem like you have to hide. Any picture even if you consider
one that is not so flattering, is better than none at all.

You should always write a creative headline and always worry about your user
name. The headline "looking for a date" may not get many good views based on
its generic qualities. However a headline like "Anyone want to go golfing?"
shows that you have different interests and are up for a possible real life
meeting. Your user name will work in much of the same way. Joel 123 will never
get as many messages as EaglesFan2003. Make sure that your name and headline
say something that you want them to know. However bring attention in a good way
and stay away from disgusting sexual names and phrases, which are unattractive
to most users and will show you in a light that may not be right.

As a final step, you need to reply to messages that you receive even if you are
not interested. Many sites will list the percentages of messages that are viewed
and how often you reply. Someone who sees that you only view 20% of your
messages and even further only rely to 8% of them may be discouraged from
giving you a message. However if you view 100% of your messages and reply to
85% of them, he or she may not be so shy.

You need to be honest, responsive, and creative. With some hard work your
profile can gain the popularity that you see some others have. The more views
that you get will mean that the more likely you are to meet online daters that
have similar interests as you do. It is in your best interest to create an
attention getter for your profile.

Dutch Dating

Dutch dating means that each person will pay for themselves when they go out on
a date. This method of dating is often the best when both parties are new to
each other, independent, or just friends.

Many people often like to go Dutch because they are not comfortable with someone
else paying for them. This is common with women who are liberal or independent
in their thinking.

It is also common if funds are low for both parties. Both people will split the
costs of dinner and any other activities chosen to do on the date.

They also might meet at the locations or drive themselves so the other party
isn't responsible for their transportation.

Dutch dating can be extremely casual and creates a comfortable atmosphere many
people are happy with when a relationship is new.

Some people just aren't comfortable with someone else paying for anything for
them until they get to know them better. In addition, they don't want to feel as
if they owe them for anything later.

Dutch allows the date to go in a successful manner without the feelings of being
'owed'. In addition, many women understand the expenses associated with dating
and don't believe it is fair that they guy should pay for everything, especially
if the two go to an expensive restaurant and do something even more expensive
later.

Dutch dating is common for people who are not comfortable with someone else
spending money on them.

There are many liberal and independent women who are very proud who prefer to
pay their own way also. This creates a comfortable atmosphere because no one
feels like they owe them for anything later.

Double Dating

Double dating is a fun way to go out and have a good time with your significant
other. It gives your date the opportunity to meet your friends and it also can
provide a comfortable experience for someone who might be a little nervous to go
out on a one-on-one date quite yet.

Double dating is an excellent idea if you want to meet someone new and you
aren't quite comfortable with being alone with them yet. You can invite a couple
you know to come along too.

This allows for you to be around people you are comfortable with while you are
getting to know your date. Some people like to go on a double date first so they
are not so nervous on the first date.

Going on a double date also gives your date the opportunity to get to know you
through your friends.

It might be a good idea to invite a couple that will say good things about you
if you really like your date and you want to see them again.

Your date can get a good idea with the type of person you are by who you are
hanging out with and the things they say about you.

It is a really good way to get another perspective on the person you are going
out with or if you want your date to know more about you.

Double dating provides a comfortable experience when you don't want to go out
with your date alone but you do want to get to know them.

In addition, double dating provides an excellent way for you or your date to see
how both of you interact with your friends and get a different perspective.

Dating Etiquette

When you go on a date there are certain things and ways you should behave. Of
course you want the person to get to know you so you shouldn't try and be
someone that you are not.

When you go out on a date you should look and dress nice. This will show the
other person you care about your appearance but you also care about what they
think about you. If you don't care about what the other person thinks then you
probably shouldn't be going out on a date with them.

Depending on the person you are taking out you should also remember to open the
car doors and all doors for your date.

If the woman you are going out with is a feminist, then let her open the doors
and do things for herself or it will bother her. She also will want to pay for
her own meal.

If you are not going on a date with an independent woman who is a feminist then
you should open the doors, be on time when you pick her up, and be prepared to
pay for the entire date.

Don't take your date somewhere you cannot afford and never find yourself asking
your date for money to cover the bill.

Dating etiquette also includes not making the other person feel as if they are
on an interview. It is common for people on a date to ask many questions and
they just want to get to know the other person.

However, don't make them feel as if they are on an interview or you might scare
them off. Be sure to create a comfortable atmosphere.

Blind Dating

Blind dating is a common way for dating also. It often occurs when someone is
set up on a date through a friend or a third party.

People are often set up on a blind date through a friend or a co-worker who
knows both parties and believes they would make a great couple.

If you are recommended to go on a blind date by a friend who knows you well, you
might want to consider it.

If your friend knows the other person as well as they know you, they might be
right about the two of you connecting and getting along well together.

When you go on a blind date you might not have any idea what the other person
looks like or you might have been shown a picture.

In all cases, the person you will be going out with will be someone you have
never met or spoke to before. It is common to be nervous about going on a blind
date because you don't know if the person will like you and you don't know if
you will like the other person.

Some people really enjoy being set up on a blind date and many blind dates turn
into successful relationships if the right people set the two of you up.

You should try to know as much information that you can about the person before
you go and be sure your friend knows the other person well before you go to be
sure the date will not be a disaster.

However, even if the two of you decide that you are not a compatible couple you
might meet someone who becomes a very good friend of yours in the long run.

Making Dates More Enjoyable and Fun

Most people are usually nervous when it comes to their first dates. This can
make you look like someone who had taken gallons of coffee before the date.

Long silence is always between your conversations with your date, and you are
hoping to come up with a few funny lines that can crack the ice.

But sometimes, you're too late because your date has decided to spend her time
with someone else.

Usually, first dates are spent in places where you can sit and talk with your
date in order to know each other better.

Some go to the movies, have some coffee at the local coffee house, or dine in an
expensive restaurant so as to impress their dates.

Dates like these just need a little jump-start to be more effective. Try adding
some adventure or do a set of enjoyable activities together in order to have fun
with your dates.

Some men take their dates to an adventurous place. They go to a few local
destinations or historical places within the area. They go around these places
whilst having so much to see and many things to talk about. These are times when
you don't need a funny line to break the silence.

In case of rain, you can't go out and have a walk at the local park or other
outdoor spots conducive for talking and knowing each other better.

On the brighter side of things, you can go indoors. Try some shopping malls.
There, you can find a wide variety of places to have some coffee.

Drinking coffee doesn't take four hours or so of sitting and doing nothing since
you can talk to your date and get to know her better.

After some time, try inviting your date for a walk at the mall. Go shop for
small things with her such as clothes and CDs.

Save some time to go bowling, play video games, or find a bookstore to share
your interests with her. The main idea is to interact with your date in order to
know her better.

This will surely provide you with a means to bolster your chances of landing a
date that can lead to love and roman ce in the long run.

With this in mind, go and check out places near you for fun activities you and
your date will surely enjoy.

Long Distance Dating

Long distance relationships and dating occur when two people live far apart from
each other and are unable to see each other but on holidays, weekends, or on
vacation.

Long distance dating can be very difficult for some relationships if the people
want to be together more often. Some people enjoy long distance relationships
because it gives them the time apart from each other to fully appreciate each
other when they are able to be together.

Some long-distance dating may not last a long because they are too difficult or
one of the people in the relationship may end up moving closer so they can be
together.

When couples experience long distance dating they are usually able to see each
other on the weekends if the distance isn't too far apart.

If the couple is too far away to be able to see each other on the weekends then
they will use their vacation time from work and see each other on the holidays.
Whenever they can get the time available they will see each other.

Many people take advantage of airline miles and earn free tickets to fly and see
their significant other when they are long-distance dating.

The couples are able to communicate by phone, email, and other methods, but they
can only see each other when one of them are capable of traveling.

Long-distance dating can be difficult for some people if they find they want to
see more of the other person and the distance is just too far.

However, it can be good for a relationship to have the time apart because when
they do see each other the two are extremely happy to be together and they don't
take each other's time for granted.

Regular Dating

Regular dating is the most popular type of dating. This is because most people
like the intimacy of being alone with their significant other.

Regular dating is going out with your date alone without other people coming
along. Many people like to include dinner and something to do afterwards like
the theatre, a concert, or dancing.

Everyone has a different idea of what they believe is romantic. Dinner might be
at a fine dining restaurant and the two of you will get dressed up. Some people
consider a home cooked meal by candlelight dinner the romantic way to dine on a
date.

This can be the best way to go if you don't have a lot of money to go out but
you want to do something special. In addition, when you cook a meal for your
date there is more thought and effort put into it and some people enjoy it much
more than they do being treated to a fine restaurant.

The regular dating experience gives you the opportunity to get to know your date
on a more personal level than when you are out with other people.

You can spend the evening talking and enjoying each other. If you are not
comfortable with an intimate dating experience on the first date then you might
not want to go alone on the first date. You might consider a double or a group
date.

Regular dating gives you the opportunity to get to know your date on a personal
level. Usually, a regular date will consist of lunch or dinner together and
finding something to do afterwards. Regular dating is the preferred method of
dating for most people because of the attention and the intimacy.

Problems With Dating

Most dating problems occur because either the two of you are not compatible or
you are not communicating enough. Other problems may be because the two of you
just are not right for each other.

Communication is the most important thing when you are dating. Most problems
occur because the two of you are having difficulty expressing your feelings or
you aren't being clear about what you want.

When you both communicate with each other properly it is clear to both of you if
you are compatible and have the same likes and dislikes.

You cannot force a relationship if the two of you are too different or you have
different goals for the relationship.

It is important to communicate about what you need and want from your
relationship so you both are satisfied and you are not having disagreements
about things.

Another thing that can cause problems with dating is if the two of you are not
compatible. Communicating properly will tell you if you are or not.

Compatibility can be difficult if one person in the relationship is needier than
the other person. If one of the people wants their space and the other is very
needy then it can make it difficult for dating.

Dating problems occur when communication skills are not up to par. You have to
be comfortable with the person you are with so you can talk to them.

Being comfortable and being able to communicate will show you how compatible the
two of you are. If you don't have these two things then you might just consider
a good friendship.

Online Dating

Online dating is very popular today with the advances of technology and the
increase of people who use computers. Online dating is a system for organizing a
date and can be an excellent way to meet that special someone.

Today, online dating is one of the most popular systems for meeting someone new
to go on a date with.

There are many online dating websites you can visit and see people who are
looking to meet someone new. You can post your picture and create a profile on
one of them too.

This will allow you to tell everything about yourself. This way, people can see
if you enjoy the same types of activities they do and you can see if certain
people look to be like someone you might be interested in.

Online dating has proven to be a successful method for meeting people and
setting up dates. Many people have continued their relationships and even been
married through online dating methods.

All relationships through online dating aren't successful but you may meet a new
friend if you are not compatible for dating.

When you consider online dating, it is important to remember you need to be
safe. The Internet is not always what it seems and people are not always honest
with everything about themselves.

You should be sure when you go on your first online date you are somewhere you
feel comfortable with and be sure to protect yourself at all times.

You can have a fantastic experience and meet your perfect match but you don't
want to be a statistic because you believed everything the other person said on
the Internet.

Online Dating Tips for Women

Women in search for a knight in shining armor in real life dating should not
lower her standards while searching online.

She should keep her dream of having a prince charming to the rescue. But having
big dreams does not mean being too selective.

Women should be selective but they should not limit their options exactly to
their ideal man. Limiting your options will decrease the possibility of having a
good catch.

Create an interesting profile. This is one way to attract your prince charming.
The content of your profile should be honest and true if you are looking for
someone who'll be you're partner for a long and intimate relationship.

Thus, put something on your profile that can make a good first impression. This
impression should also last a lifetime. Keep in mind to upload a photo with your
most attractive smile.

Avoid overly sexual photos -- upload sexy photos, but limit it to PG13 viewing.

Let's include your safety. Make sure your common sense is working well. Do not
give your personal home address to your online date. If you plan to meet up
somewhere, have someone to accompany you or know about your plans.

If uneasiness is felt while being with your date, you have the right to stop and
cut all contact off between the both of you. It is better to be safe than sorry.

Online dating is a rapidly growing activity. Better hurry and carry on these
tips to start your wonderful search for your partner.

Online Dating Tips for Men

So you've just joined an online dating com munity. Do not be discouraged when
your prospect dates have not yet responded to your queries.

Women members of online dating portals receive an average of fifty to 200
queries from other members of the opposite sex. This means she's just taking
time going through all the queries she had received. You need to be a bit more
patient.

Have a proactive approach when it comes to online dating. Focusing on one woman
would reduce your chances of landing a response.

Try sending messages to different women in order to bolster the probabilities of
getting a good response.

Carefully choosing your would-be dates is a good thing to do since this would
help you land the dates who have the same interests as yours. However, don't be
too selective.

You have to try creating a unique profile when sending messages. Make it stand
out because there will be a lot of messages for one woman from other members of
the online dating community.

Starting out with an interesting username is favorable. In addition, read
through the profiles of your intended partners in order to incorporate a few
things they like on your own profile, but keep in mind to include just the
things you are actually interested in.

By doing so, your prospective partners will read through your profile after
receiving a query from you and end up remembering you because of the stuff
that's on your profile.

She may even feel that you took the time to read through her profile and
subsequently establish a connection with her.

Be truthful about the things you put on your profile. Lying about stuff will
just ruin your entire reputation in the online dating community.

In addition, it will be harder to correct lies whenever you and your dates have
known each other better. It would also prevent you from enjoying while you're on
a date with the other members of the online dating community because you'll be
too careful to cover up all the lies you've told your dates before you got to go
out on a date with them.

Virtual Dating

Virtual dating is a common method of dating with people who are wired in the
technology realm. This method of dating is a system for finding possible dates
or people who you might be interested in dating.

Virtual dating uses a combined method of playing video games and dating. People
will create what is known as avatars that are virtual figures of themselves.
They will spend time in a video game virtual world and meet other people over
the computer.

This virtual dating method allows people to talk to potential dates through
conversation and interact with each other through a video game method.

If they decide they want to have an actual relationship with the other person
then they will move to the next step in actually meeting by exchanging phone
numbers or setting up a location to meet.

Millions of people practice virtual dating today and it is a preferred method by
many. These people who use these systems are usually into science fiction and
they are very good with technology.

The technology and the use of the virtual dating system shows people using this
system of dating that they have something in common.

However, with the allowed interaction and the play through the video game method
allows people to interact in a virtual way with people too. This can show
someone's intellectual side, education, and more when they work through the
virtual dating systems.

Virtual dating is a common method today used by people to meet new people and
find potential candidates for pursuing a relationship with. It is a fun way to
meet new people and allow them to get to know you without actually meeting them
until you are comfortable.

The Right Time to Kiss Your Date

Some men may not know or do not have the slightest idea if a woman is ready to
be kissed. These men may be sitting beside their dates talking too much they
suddenly realize how the lips of their dates are so kissable.

Their imagination will then take control, but this would also mean disaster if
done wrong. This may often leave these men without a second chance for another
date with the woman.

If a guy finds himself talking to a girl and wondering if she's ready to be
kissed, he may softly touch her hair and give a compliment about it.

If the girl shows a favorable reaction, this may be a sign of getting closer to
a kiss. Get closer and try reaching for her hair again.

Touch the hair tips and simply gaze on her lips and eyes. The fact that she does
not mind about you getting closer to her is a sign that she is comfortable. This
is a sign for a guy to go and kiss the girl.

Some guys try to go out on an adventurous date in order to make the kissing move
more suave and natural. One particular example is a guy who usually takes a girl
to a small boat ride on a river.

Upon sailing along the river, he happens to direct the boat to a place covered
with trees and fireflies -- truly a romantic place to kiss.

A guy can also take her date to some ancient ruins in a local spot and manage to
spend time walking until dark. These ruins usually light up at night.

The guy can take his date to the top of the ruins where they can see the city
all beautifully lit up. This is when the guy should make a move and kiss his
date.

Kissing Tips on a Date

Usually, you shouldn't go all out with a kiss at the end of a first date. First
date kisses mostly involve light pecks at the cheeks or even on the lips. These
kisses should only be allowed once you feel comfortable enough with your date.

The right time to kiss is usually the most romantic moments of the date. When
you feel that you're close enough to your date while having fun doing a set of
adventurous activities, this might be the right time to kiss.

If you're talking while having a quiet walk at the park and you notice that he's
looking directly at your eyes, this is usually another one of those right
kissing moments.

Try to look at his eyes and see if he's sincere enough to give you a light kiss
on the lips. You'll usually feel if it's just the right time to kiss.

Sharing moments are usually the best times to kiss on a date, especially if
you're talking about something personal.

The situation doesn't need to be dramatic and serious to kiss. The right moment
to kiss during these sharing moments is when you feel comfortable sharing your
personal perceptions and experiences with your date.

At the end of the date, you can give him a light peck at the cheeks if you had
fun with him on your first date after he has taken you home safe and sound.

You can give him a friendly kiss on the lips if you happen to have fun with him
again on your second date. Afterwards, a fertile imagination is all you need
when it comes to the kisses you'll be having on your succeeding dates.

Speed Dating

Speed dating occurs when people go to a speed dating place looking for someone
who might be a good match for them. This includes a very quick meeting with many
different people and you see if there is someone there who you might be
compatible with.

Speed dating is when many women and men sit at tables. A woman and a man will
sit at each table for a specified period of time. It may be two minutes or ten
minutes depending on the speed dating place you are at.

During this period of time, the two will ask each other questions and get to
know a little about each other. They have the opportunity to quickly get a run
down on each person and decide if they are someone they might be interested in
getting to know a little better after.

When the time is up then the women or the men will move to the next table and
talk to another person.

After each of the couples have met and spoke to each other they will give the
numbers of the people or say which people they are interested in. If both people
show an interest then they have the opportunity to communicate and go out
together.

During the speed dating process while couples are at the table they may exchange
information with each other also , if they hit it off right away.

Speed dating is not for everyone but some people really like meeting new people
and finding a date this way. Many people like this method because they get to
meet the people in person and talk with them rather than online or by going on a
blind date.

It is said that if there is chemistry between the two people then it is
immediately recognized during a speed dating session.

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